What St. Clare of Assisi Meant by “We Become What We Love”
“We become what we love and who we love shapes what we become.”
— St. Clare of Assisi
“We become what we love and who we love shapes what we become” reflects the deep spiritual insight of St. Clare of Assisi — that the direction of our lives is formed by what we give our hearts to.
Who Said “We Become What We Love”?
This quote is attributed to St. Clare of Assisi (1194–1253), the founder of the Poor Clares and a close follower of St. Francis of Assisi, known for her life of simplicity, prayer, and total devotion to Christ.
What Does “We Become What We Love” Mean?
St. Clare teaches that love is not passive — it is transformative. What we focus on, value, and pursue gradually shapes who we are becoming.
If we give our hearts to things that are temporary or superficial, our lives begin to reflect those same qualities. But when we center our love on God, our lives are shaped by truth, goodness, and lasting peace.
To “become what we love” means that love directs our growth. It forms our character, influences our choices, and determines the path we follow.
Clare’s words invite us to examine our priorities — to ask what truly holds our attention and affection — and to choose what leads us closer to God.
Why This Quote Still Matters Today
In a world full of distractions and competing desires, St. Clare reminds us that what we love matters deeply. Our lives will reflect what we give ourselves to.
When we choose to love what is good, our lives are shaped by that goodness.
To walk more deeply with this gentle and faithful saint, explore our 30-day devotional,
Walking with St. Clare of Assisi
— a daily journey of simplicity, devotion, and love centered on Christ.
